Trying to being the perfect mother is tiring and unrealistic to me. Before I gave birth to my daughter, I thought I would bounce back like a celebrity mom. This did not happen at all! I looked like a potato with chia pet hair. To be honest, most days I rock a messy bun and leggings. Breast milk stains on my shirts and no makeup on. In the beginning I was disappointed with myself. I looked in the mirror and saw my potato chia pet self. I had to learn that having a baby takes a lot of work; but it began to get easier as my daughter got older. Nine months later, I look like a potato with a clean combed hair bun and jeans on. Yes, it only took nine months but I’m back in jeans.
That is progress to me. Set realistic goals for yourself as a mother and a normal person. We are all human and struggle with different things on a daily basis. I set myself up for disappointment by giving myself unrealistic goals.You can even feel disappointed by weight gain in your pregnancy. DO NOT EVER feel disappointed in your pregnancy weight. I was called “fat” and a “whale” during my pregnancy. I held my head up high and focused on the health of my baby. Gaining weight is expected and is going to happen. You have a human being growing inside of you every day.
Disappointment can either make or break a person. We all will experience disappointment during our lifetime. Disappointment can range from as little as having bad take out, to crying in the shower alone after heartbreak. Don’t let disappointment shape you in a negative way. This is not as easy as it sounds. Turn that disappointment into motivation. But Remember, it is okay to cry about it, embrace the pain and face it head on. Cry in the shower if you need to, but when you dry off, leave the pain in the drain.